You are about to read a blog by a person who has not been in church her whole life. This is a prelude to how I have found Light in my church family, and in my life family. I went as a kid. We were exposed to it as children, but to say we were immersed in the life and lifestyle would be a misnomer. My paternal grandparents were in church every time the doors were open, but I never saw the Light through them. They were mean, bitter people and I never felt that I was loved by them. They didn't encourage us to be better people. I learned a lot of how not to be by watching them, but I also learned why they were they way they were. They had a hard life. They suffered bitter disappointments. About 20 years ago, Dad started going to church every time the doors were open. If there was a church service, my father was there. I went to appease him, but I still felt alienated and not welcomed by the Church. It might have been more of where I was in my life at the time than their attitude, but there was severe issues within the congregation. There were fierce battles of control and power with some of the members. Once again, the Light was not shining through them. It hardened me against Religion, and I struggled with my Faith.
For awhile, I justified not attending church as I don't have to be with those of like faith since there aren't many who believe as I do. I was against organized religion, but still retained my belief that God sent his Son as a sacrifice for my sins so I would not spend an eternity in Hell, but have everlasting Life with Him. That's all well and good, except that in order to feed your spirit, you have to eat and drink from the body of Christ, translation you have to meet with those who can lift you up and you have to have the word of God spoken and discussed as part of that fellowship. I stumbled through life for the past 18 years. I have endured abuse, custody battles, divorce, terror, being homeless, my daughter nearly dying multiple times, my husband nearly choked to death while on duty, an employer fired me and then threatened to kill me and a fellow co-worker, family battles that would make Jerry Springer blush, court battles, and estrangement from my son. My job was so stressful I was having health problems from it. It wasn't until I began attending church again this year that my life began to turn around. I know now that all those things were a test of my FAITH and not a punishment for my sins. Bad things are going to happen. Let's face it. If being a Christian meant that life was going to be gravy what would be the point of Heaven? We pay our penance on earth to have our glory in Heaven.
My daughter is probably the biggest reason for my renewed faith. For me Faith is not Christianity. Faith is that even though I can't see Him, I know I can surrender my will and give all to Him. My daughter has bloomed from learning of His word. She was saved a few weeks ago and was Baptized last weekend. It is so wonderful to see her singing in the choir. People come to us and speak of how special she is and how they love to see her in the loft. "She just smiles and sings with all her heart." "She's such a sweet girl." They see the Light through her. My girl is one of those children that seeks those that are look sad or lonely, that no one else will play with. That takes strength of character that a lot of adults don't have. We all want to be accepted and we want to run with the pack. To break out of the pack and nurture the wallflowers, the shy ones...that is Light. She's at Bible camp this weekend and my anxiety level is peaked. But I know that she will be able to learn more from them than I can teach her since I wasn't raised in the church. I have to be a good person and do what is right in His eyes as an example for her. I have to show my daughter that we will be faithful and obedient and with that comes mercy and glory.
I still have a problem with Religion. Religion is a set of rules and doctrine that is rigid and structured. It is a business. It isn't for spiritual growth, it is an epidemic. Religion is the reason for most wars and a lot of political rhetoric. I would rather people ask me what my Faith is versus what is my Religion. I am a Christian because I believe in Christ. Our church is Southern Baptist and subscribes to their doctrine. While I still cannot attach myself completely to the idealism of the business of religion, we have made a full-fledged proclamation to immerse ourselves in our faith. God led us to our church, and He has brought us back to this church. And since we have, I can testify that my job is less stressful and I am having less trouble sleeping. My husband has garnered the attention of his supervisors in a positive way. He has started attending the Men's meetings, and has encouraged us to be better Christians. He has taken his role as a Christian father and husband. We are both happier and our marriage is even stronger (if that was possible!) Our regular preacher was on a much deserved vacation this week, but our youth minister stood in for him. He did a wonderful job. One of the many things that stuck with me was that even though we can't earn our way into Heaven, we need to show the world that God loves each of us by doing good deeds. Call someone and say, "I don't know what you've got going on in your life right now, but I just wanted to say I love you, and so does God." Smile at a total stranger and say, Hi. Post onto someone's Facebook and tell them you're praying for them. Don't wait until there's a prayer request to pray for people. If you know they're struggling or grappling with a dilemma, pray for them.
Brother Blake said today that we need to start off each day with a simple two part prayer:
- Please make me the person you need me to be, Lord
- Give my your spiritual armor to protect me, Lord.
We need to end each day with a simple prayer:
- Thank you, Lord, for all you have given to me.
If you stayed with my rambling this long, I appreciate it. This was mostly a cathartic writing to put into words what has been bouncing around in my head. My heart is aching over other things, but I think that starting my secret public journal will possibly help. If it helped you in any way, give praise to God.